5 Absolute no's of parenting

Parents are the very first influencers of their children's life, so their actions and habits affect their children significantly. But adult life is no easy, at times we all go through so much that we forget to keep our composure and end up doing something that we shouldn't. Though we may correct ourselves afterwards however children around us may not be able to take it that lightly.

Therefore it is extremely important that we do not act recklessly and say something that might leave a negative impact on our children. So, to keep you from trouble we have listed below a few actions and phrases that will help you enhance your parenting game.

1. "Act like a man/Act like a woman''

The phrase draws a clear line between a man and a woman. It makes a child think that man and women are different and there are certain things only a woman can do that a man cannot and vise versa. We should strongly refrain ourselves from making such remarks as generation ahead of us must not differ between genders or sexual identities.

Rather as parent we must use gender neutral phrases and avoid making debating remarks on such subjects.

2. Comparison to sibling or friend

In this insanely competitive world we often compare our children with their siblings or friends. Forgetting that every child is unique in his/her own way. It makes them question their abilities or worst it may distance your child from you.

That's why rather than comparing your children with other's, try to focus on their achievements big or small, appreciate them for their work. Remember completing a task comes first, being good or bad at it is a secondary thing.

3. Never raise your voice

Never raise your voice in front of your children or at them. Be it proving your stance right or taking out your frustration, it's an absolute NO. It instills anxiety and fear in them. As adults some of us may consider it as an act of teaching discipline to their children. however believe me it is never the right way.

Also if it happens to be the case, where you raised your voice, clam yourself down, simply explain yourself to your children and apologize.

4. Never ignore them if they come to you

As times has changed, we all are super busy and our hectic lifestyle often make us ignorant towards our children. If you do it more often they might not to you even when you are free. Therefore, whenever they come to you for something do not shove them up with something like ''I will look at it later'' or ''don't disturb me now''.

Rather give it a look and at least listen to them once. You may not be able fulfill their request immediately but it will assure your children that you are there for them.

5. Never force your ideals on them

It is seen in many cases parents often force their ideologies on to their children. Shoving your ideals and morals on your children is not a good idea. We are nurturing a generation that will eventually lead the world after us, we are not preparing bots to go by the books.

Therefore, help them form their own ideologies. Our job is to correct them if they chose a wrong path not choosing the path.

It is true, parenting is very delicate in nature and today's sensitive generation makes it even more difficult. However no one is a born parent, we all learn by time. we just have to keep on learning and accepting new changes.